Where are you in the divorce process? recently separated? in the middle of the process or is your divorce final? Where you are in the process may determine your perspective. If you are just beginning down the path of divorce or if you are in the throws of the process, your perspective may be that you just want to survive. If your divorce was recently finalized you may just be thankful that the painful process is over and that you survived.
The picture in the upper corner is a Juniper on it’s side knocked over by rough weather on the rim of the Colorado National Monument. In Colorado it always amazes me the trees that you see growing out of the rocks in the canyons and high country. How do they survive ? Despite their circumstances and adverse conditions they find a way to grow from a mere seedling into a thriving tree. I am sure there are far more that do not survive.
One thing is for sure, no matter where you are in the divorce process, you will survive. How you survive is largely up to you. Whether you move forward or remain stuck in the past is completely up to you. Don’t waste the opportunity to learn and grow from this experience.
If you simply muddle through it, avoiding the pain and the lessons to be learned, you will merely survive. There is much to be learned from the trials in life. Our life experiences and how we handle them, help define who we are and who we become. Pain is no exception. In fact we learn far more from our trials in life than we ever do from our successes. It is through perseverance and endurance that we gain strength, courage, wisdom, faith and confidence.
If you would like to read more about this topic, I recently wrote an article called; Surviving Divorce -What Kind of a Survivor Will You Be? My hope is that you will choose to be more than a survivor. I hope that you will take the opportunity to learn as much as you can about your self, relationships, marriage, who you are, what you are capable of doing and deepen your relationship with the One who will see you through it. Are you willing to do the work? to go deeper and come up higher?
As always, you are welcome to share your comments or experiences below.
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