The holiday season officially kicked off yesterday with Black Friday. You survived your first Thanksgiving holiday since your divorce. Now come the parties, the shopping, the holiday season festivities. Tis the season of cheer, and joyful singing, socializing and well wishing, yet you may not be in the mood for the holidays. Ready or not they are here.
What can you do to survive the holidays? Take care of your self. If it is too hard to go to a certain event, then give yourself permission not to go. If you feel you have to make an appearance, then go for a while and leave. If you are not sure how it will go, be sure to drive your own car so you have the ability to leave when you want. Attending social events can be difficult the first year.
The important thing is to do what you can to take care of yourself. As much as possible avoid situations that you know will be difficult, that will make you sad. Only you know what you can handle and what may be too much.
What is it that gives you strength? What encourages you? What gives you hope? What comforts you or brings you peace? What is a special treat you can give or do for yourself? For example, does a good workout help you feel good about yourself? Does reading motivational or inspirational material give you strength? Does listening to a motivational speaker, a Bible teacher, a certain pastor, or watching a particular show encourage you and give you hope? Can you watch or listen to it on the internet? Does talking with a family member or trusted friend comfort you? How do you treat yourself? Is it going to the spa for a massage? Getting a pedicure or manicure? Maybe a new CD, book, or electronic gizmo? Maybe it is a new clothing item that you have been wanting? Or going to eat at a particular restaurant.
Think about how you can take care of yourself in a healthy way. Reward yourself when you do something that was difficult for you. Maybe you attended a school program for one of your children and it was hard for you to see your ex-spouse there, or you had to answer a lot of questions from people curious about your circumstances.
During this season of hussle and bussle. Be kind to yourself. Try not to over indulge in all of the sweets and treats, get plenty of sleep and squeeze in some exercise. The better you feel, the better you will be able to handle the holidays. Blessings to you this season.
Copyright 2008 Shelley Grieser All Rights Reserved.
