Divorce Support

“Attention: Men and Women going through divorce.

If You are in the Process of Getting Divorced,
You Need this Invaluable Information and
Support to Ease Your Pain and Stress as You
Travel the Road Ahead.

This workshop is limited to 20 people. Reserve your seat now before it fills up!

Did you recently learn that your marriage will be ending in divorce, or has it been coming for awhile?

Have you and (maybe) your spouse been struggling to save your marriage for some time?

Despite your best efforts and prayers, did one or both of you reach the decision to pursue divorce?

Do you feel prepared to go through the divorce process?

Do you know what to expect in the days and weeks ahead?

Do you feel secure and confident about the decisions you need to make?

Do you have a support system in place? Do you know how to create one?

Do you know someone in your area that has recently been through a divorce that is willing to walk you through the process?

Do you believe your spouse will look out for you and your best interest and make sure you get the best possible settlement?

IF YOU ANSWERED “NO” TO ANY OF THE QUESTIONS ABOVE then my upcoming workshop is for you: “THE DIVORCE SUPPORT WORKSHOP: NAVIGATING THE PROCESS WITH FORTITUDE AND GRACE”

Attend “The Divorce Support Workshop: Navigating the Process with Fortitude and Grace” workshop and you will:

• Avoid some of the common pitfalls
• Be more informed to make better decisions
• Be proactive rather than reactive
• Be equipped with tools and resources that can save you time, energy and money
• Learn how to create a support system
• Develop a right mindset and perspective of your circumstances
• Be encouraged and motivated to press on
• Dramatically reduce your stress
• Set personal boundaries

This workshop is limited to 20 people. Reserve your seat now before it fills up!

I know that desperate, devastating, hopeless feeling. I can still remember so clearly the day my husband informed me, “He was not happy.”

The news was revealed to me shortly after our Christmas cards were sent off to family and friends. I had used our family portrait taken during the summer for the church directory, for our Christmas card. We received so many comments on that photo about how we looked like the “perfect little family.” The photo of my husband and I with our adorable 3 year old son and precious daughter who was just shy of one year. Little did I know that by the time the cards were received, my life would begin a downward spiral?

December 1998 began my battle to save my marriage. I say battle because in reality my husband had already given up on our marriage before he informed me, he was not happy. I was the only one fighting to save our marriage. I have since learned just how common it is for one spouse to give up on the marriage before they ever let the other spouse know there is a problem.

I was determined to give it everything I had. I came from a divorced family and never wanted my children to come from a broken home. On my journey, I discovered what it meant to be in relationship with God rather than religion. I prayed and had other people praying, we tried individual counseling, couples counseling, I read self help books. Yet nothing seemed to change my circumstances. I felt powerless.

By August 1999, after 2 months of couples counseling it became clear to me (and the psychologist) that I was the only one interested in saving our marriage. My husband was done with counseling.

A few months later, in November 1999, my husband decided he needed some space and moved out of our family home. After 14 months of living on his own he reached the conclusion that he wanted to move on and get divorced.

Joseph Warren Kniskern writes in his book, When the Vow Breaks, “Divorce is as close as you can get to death without actually dying. Only those who have experienced it can truly understand its dark power to test emotions and intellect to the ultimate degree. The only social trauma greater than divorce is the physical death of a loved one.”

You are reading this because you are searching for information on how you can cope with your impending divorce? You are looking for help and support. You have found it!

I understand your pain? I can relate to what you are feeling.

What if I told you that you do not have to travel the path of divorce by yourself?

What if you had valuable information and tools to help you cope and prepare for the unfamiliar (unwanted?) path of divorce?

Today, it is believed that somewhere between 40-50% of marriages will end in divorce. Being a “Christian” no longer means you are less likely to experience divorce. If you find yourself about to become one of those statistics, my guess is you have had very little preparation or training for the process you are about to undertake.

Until recently there has not been much information to prepare you for the divorce process.

When people get married and/or have children, they receive very little preparation and training for these major life events. Marriage and having children are joyous life events. People are excited and happy to share their experiences with others.

However, unlike marriage and having babies, divorce is not a joyous life event.

People are not usually eager to share their divorce stories. Divorce is painful and can trigger unpleasant, uncomfortable memories. If you know someone who has gone through a divorce, you may not have paid much attention to their experience, or maybe you just could not relate to their experience.

I remember when one of my good friends was the first to go through a divorce. She had two young children. Her husband had reconnected with a college girlfriend who had recently been divorced. I was newly married and in a blissful state. I remember feeling awful for my friend and at the same time unsure of how to help. I suspect I was not the best person to offer support as my marriage was fresh and hers was ending.

Years later when I found myself facing divorce, I could finally relate to her experience. I was humbled and felt a deep sense of compassion and regret. For it was not until I went through my own divorce that I truly understood the depth of pain she must have experienced.

As you begin the journey of divorce, your best support and resources for information will come from people who have been through a divorce. Your friends and family can love you, comfort you in your pain, listen to you process your feelings, and encourage you, but unless they have been through a divorce, they cannot truly relate to this life changing event.

Divorce is a devastating experience. The truth is the road ahead will have ups and downs. Your life is about to change and change is not always easy. You don’t have to do this alone.

But what if you had the opportunity to learn from other people’s mistakes and avoid additional heartache and unnecessary stress, would you be interested?

If you were given tools and resources to help you navigate your way through divorce would you want access to that information?

For most people going through divorce, they have no idea what to expect? To add to the confusion, their spouse, the person they married and who they thought they knew has suddenly become someone else, a complete stranger.

If this describes your situation, whether you know for certain your marriage will end in divorce, or it appears inevitable, THIS WORKSHOP IS FOR YOU.

In this 3 week workshop you will learn:

Christians and divorce

If God hates divorce, is He mad at me? God did not answer my prayers. How can I overcome my anger with God?
Keeping your faith in God through the divorce process.
Trusting God is in control and everything will be okay.
Tracking God’s fingerprints

Valuable tips for getting through the divorce process

Developing a right attitude and perspective
How to prepare yourself for meetings you would rather not attend
Getting the support you need and desire
The benefits of keeping a journal during your divorce process
Some things people never tell you about divorce
What you can expect in a typical divorce process

Useful advice on:

How to find an attorney and other professionals you may need for your divorce
Information you should document and why?
Communicating with your spouse
Setting boundaries with your spouse

Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble, but take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

Divorce may be the last thing you ever thought you would have to face, but take heart! You can overcome divorce.

Steven K. Scott in his book, “The Greatest Man Who Ever Lived”, states; “While there are thousands of ways to deal with failure incorrectly, there is only one right way to deal with it.

The first thing we must do to effectively deal with failure is to change our attitude about it…Instead of viewing it with dread, we need to begin to view it as a valued teacher….on those occasions when failure overtakes us, it is how we react or respond to it that will determine whether it takes the role of an enemy or a teacher. If we react to it by turning our back and running away from the lessons it offers, it will remain a dreaded foe for life.”

Divorce is a grievous journey. The truth is the road ahead will have ups and downs. If you had the opportunity to learn from other people’s mistakes and avoid additional heartache and unnecessary stress, would you be interested?

If you were given tools and resources to help you cope with the tough times would you want access?

For most people going through divorce, they have no idea what to expect.

January 5, 2001 was the date my husband informed me he was “ready to move on.” My worst fear became reality. I remember feeling scared and alone, as if I was the only one going through a divorce. I feared for my future and my young children. How would divorce affect them? I felt ashamed, like a failure. I had failed in marriage. I had failed my children, depriving them of the opportunity to be raised in an intact family. How would they know or learn about what it means to be a family?

How would I be able to provide for them? How could this be happening? This is not how I envisioned my life. Why God? Why can’t you save my marriage? You are all powerful, You can do anything. You hate divorce. What about all the prayers that have been prayed over my marriage?

Having moved away from family and close friends, my circle of friends in Colorado were all married with young children. I did not know anyone to ask advice or recommendations for divorce professionals.

God was with me. He knew what I would need. A couple of days later as I sat in church reading the bulletin, I saw an announcement for a Divorce Recovery Group beginning on January 16th at my church. I knew I was going to need all the help and support I could get for the journey ahead of me. Despite my fear and embarrassment, I made the call and signed up.

The group was led by a therapist (specializing in divorce) with a team of facilitators (all previously divorced). I was the only one in the group of 40-50 people who had young children. The people attending the group ranged from recently separated to having been divorced for 4 years.

I was so impressed with the leader of the group that I began individual counseling with her. When the recovery program ended there were about 10 of us that wanted more. We knew we had more work to do; we were hungry and anxious to learn how to overcome this challenge in our lives. A small group of us continued to meet with the leader for several more months after the program ended.

We developed a special bond through processing our pain. We began meeting socially and continued our friendships for years. Several of us went on to become facilitators for the Divorce Recovery Group when it was offered the next year. It was an incredible opportunity to give back and share with others what we had learned going through the process.

In May 2002, I joined a Single Mom’s support group that was forming at another church in our area. This group lasted 3 years and included courses on Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Love and Logic for Raising Children by Jim Fay and Foster Cline, and Crown Financial Ministries to name a few.

As I continued on my journey, my compassion for people going through divorce grew and grew. I was so grateful for the support I received and what I learned going through the process that I found myself sharing my experience with other people I met, and those I already knew who since found themselves facing divorce.

I developed a strong desire to take what I learned going through the divorce process to help others and encourage them. When it came time to return to work full time it really became clear to me that my passion was to help others affected by divorce. As I explored how I might best help others, the path of Life Coaching was the perfect fit for me, my gifts, my talents and experience. I pursued a Life Coaching certification.

While earning my Life Coaching certification, I was asked to train to become a Spiritual Director at my church. A Spiritual Director walks alongside people who are asking spiritual questions and pursuing God. In Spiritual Direction, the focus is on the process of drawing closer to God in all types of circumstances and all seasons of life. The Director is a companion on the journey who provides a regular space for exploration of God’s work in each person’s life.

At the time I had no idea my journey through divorce, seeking God and growing in my relationship with Him was preparing me to become a Spiritual Director. I viewed this as yet another opportunity to take what I learned from my divorce experience and use it to help others.

I am living proof that you can overcome divorce despite everything you are currently feeling, and create a life that you will enjoy. I know the fears, brokenness, anxiety, and stress that fill your soul when you find yourself at the crossroads of divorce. Facing a multitude of unknowns, wondering how you will get through it and rebuild your life can truly be overwhelming. As someone who has been at the crossroads of where you are now, I want to help you get through this process being proactive rather than reactive. Now is the time to take control of your life and your future.

You can do whatever you need to do. You may have your doubts, but God can and will see you through the days and months ahead.

The choices and decisions you make during this process will determine your
future. Now is the time to reach out and get the help you need.

Educating yourself, learning as much as you can, seeking advice from experts and sifting the information will empower you to make the best decisions possible.

Divorces can be really expensive. Not all advice is good advice. How will you discern what to do? How will you prepare for the road ahead?Will you trust your soon to be ex-spouse to make decisions for you? Does he/she really have your best interest in mind?

Begin preparing for your future now. Join me for my upcoming workshop. “The Divorce Support Workshop: Navigating the Process with Fortitude and Grace”

Divorce is not about winning and losing.

You will come out of your divorce process either bitter or better, but you cannot be both. Which will you choose?

If your attitude is revenge and making your spouse pay for the hurt and pain that he/she has caused you, then this workshop is not for you.

If you are looking for detailed information on the legal process or technical steps for divorce, then this workshop will not answer those questions.

For your convenience, you can attend this workshop from the comfort of your own home.

Personally, I hate divorce and how it shatters people’s lives, breaks up family relationships and impacts children. As a child of divorce and an adult who has experienced divorce, helping others overcome divorce has become my passion.

My passion is to help people:

	get through their divorce with dignity and integrity,
	to learn and grow through this experience
	by encouraging and supporting people through the difficult divorce process
	by educating them on what to expect
	navigate the road blocks, traffic jams and detours along the way
	by sharing valuable information and resources to reduce the pressure and ease the pain they experience
	dig deeper in their faith
	seek God in their healing and recovery
	trust that God has a plan B for their life
	rediscover who they are, their purpose and destiny
	feel empowered to move forward and create a life they truly desire

You may feel like a victim right now, especially if your spouse is the one who initiated the divorce. Assuming the victim role and developing a victim mentality will not serve you well in the end. A victim mentality will keep you stuck in the past and emotionally unhealthy.

You can overcome divorce and enjoy life again. It takes time and determination.

Our natural instinct is to avoid pain. When we feel pain, we want to eliminate it as quickly as possible. It does not help that we live in an impatient world desiring instant gratification.

Some people attempt to ease their pain by jumping into another relationship before they have healed from their brokenness. Whenever people avoid grieving, dealing with their hurt feelings, it becomes emotional baggage. The emotional baggage is carried with them into future relationships and will resurface.

You may be familiar with Steven Covey and his best-selling book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People.” One of those habits is; beginning with the end in mind.

As you begin your divorce process take a minute to consider what you want at the end of your divorce.

Do you want to enjoy your life again?
Do you want to lead a fulfilling purposeful life?
Do you want to come out a stronger, whole, purpose driven person?
Do you want to improve your chances for a healthy, successful relationship in the future?
Do you want a fresh start at life again?

The choices you will be making during and after the divorce process will determine your future. You will want to be sure to make choices that will lead to your desired outcome.

The path of least resistance?
The path of unforgiveness and bitterness?
The path of the victim?
The path to healing and growth?
The path of forgiveness, freedom and a better you?

Feel powerless over your circumstances
Hear those dreaded words you never expected or wanted to hear from your spouse “I am not happy”
Be desperate and willing to do whatever it takes to work through issues to save your marriage
Be the only one who wants to save the marriage
To pray, seek and ask God to save your marriage and wonder why he did not save it
Discover broken trust with your spouse
Come from a broken home as a child and never wanting your children to have to experience a broken home
Feel rejected and betrayed by the person you vowed to spend the rest of your life with, till death do us part
To have your hopes and dreams shattered
To Feel like a failure and blame your self
To feel like you are facing this experience alone no immediate support system
To not know any divorce professionals or people to ask for recommendations
To say to yourself “if only I had seen this coming”

Admitting that I needed help to get through my divorce, then seeking resources for support and educating myself
By developing a personal relationship with God, learning and growing in my faith
By God’s grace, mercy, comfort, strength, wisdom and healing

I am stronger and more capable than I thought.
I would become a better person and mother as a result of my divorce
I would discover “Who I am,” gain a better understanding of my past, my childhood, how it affected me and how I could change myself and my false beliefs.
God is faithful and He would see me through my divorce and beyond.
God can take a painful, devastating, life changing experience and cause good to come from it.
Trust God more and spend less time worrying and being afraid of the future.
Being single I would be free to learn, grow and develop my faith.
This experience would bring people into my life that would become treasured friends.
My children and I would develop deeper connections to other people and families than we would if we were an intact family.

In this 3 Week Workshop you will learn:

• Specific tools to help you survive your divorce. Overcoming divorce is not a matter of positive thinking.
• Common mistakes people make and how to avoid them.
• Specific strategies and techniques you can apply immediately to help you through the divorce process.
• How and why you can and should trust God through the process
• Tips on how to communicate with your spouse during this stressful time.
• Information on the importance of grieving
• Ways you can prepare yourself for the divorce process
• Benefits of journaling through your divorce
• Types of information you should document
• Developing a right mindset and attitude

This course is specifically designed for people who are preparing for or already in the process of divorce. If you recognize the need for help in getting through the process, with less pain, want some encouragement and motivation to press on, desire to move forward and not become a victim, this is the course for you.

If you know you need help, and you are tired of feeling overwhelmed, not knowing where to turn, feeling like you are all alone on this path and you are ready to learn from someone who has traveled the path of divorce and moved forward, YOU are in the right place at the right time.

I’m offering an incredible opportunity for anyone who is serious about wanting help and valuable information that they can begin using immediately and apply through out their divorce process and recovery.

Teleseminar 1 Tuesday, November 2, 2010 8pm EST/5pm PST

Preparing for the Journey

This session will provide valuable information to help you prepare for the journey ahead. This will include some practical principles you can apply today, steps you can take now to begin building your support system, and practices you can develop or enhance to be the cornerstone you can turn to throughout your divorce process.

• An overview of what you may expect during the divorce process.
• Trusting God and leaning on Him.
• Accepting reality even when it hurts.
• The critical importance of taking care of yourself.
• Finding the words and the courage to tell people about your divorce.
• Handling the reactions from friends and family.
• What is a support community and how can I get one?
• Determining your “safe place” – seeking refuge in the midst of the storm.
• Divorce is the death of a marriage. You will learn about the process of grieving.
• Learn where you should focus your attention and where not to focus your attention.
• Use the exclusive membership forum to share your stories, give and receive ideas, seek prayer,
  support and feedback on issues you are facing.

Teleseminar 2 Tuesday, November 9, 2010 8pm EST/ 5pm PST

Creating a Packing List – Assessing What You Will Need for the Journey

Once you have been prepped to begin the journey of divorce, the next step is to determine what you will need for your journey. As you travel into unfamiliar territory it is helpful to learn about the possibilities of what lies ahead. When you have an idea of what to expect, you can better equip yourself for the journey. In this session we will continue our preparation with useful tools, simple steps you can follow to reduce your stress, and avoid unnecessary road blocks and detours.

Teleseminar 3 Tuesday, November 16, 2010 8pm EST/ 5pm PST

Gathering Details, Resources and Information to Help You Persevere and Finish the Journey Strong

Every divorce is unique. It would be impossible to cover all of the potential issues and problems that could occur in your divorce process. However, the more you know about what you may expect, the better prepared you can be to handle situations if and when they arise. By learning effective strategies, useful tools and methods for handling the many aspects of divorce you will help reduce your stress level, heal more quickly, avoid wasted time, energy and emotion. In this session we will cover the following information:

BONUS Included with Your Registration – Exclusive Private Forum

You will receive membership into an exclusive private forum set up for those who participate in the course. You will be able to network, brainstorm, joint venture and collaborate with other success driven entrepreneurs. You will have the opportunity to meet other workshop students and receive feedback on your Vision and Magnetic Goals from others.

This one benefit is worth more than most people realize.

Special BONUS for the first 10 people who sign up – Personal “One on One” Access to my expertise

The first 10 people will receive a personal “one on one” 30 minute telephone coaching session with me. This private session is yours to use as you wish, but I recommend that you use it to obtain personalized input and feedback for your most pressing divorce questions or concerns.

Value equals $50.00 and it’s yours FREE when you are one of the first 10 people to register!

Zero Risk 100% Money-back Guarantee: We are confident that this workshop will help you through your divorce by being better informed, equipped with tools and strategies to help reduce your stress! If, after attending the first session, you decide that the workshop isn’t for you I will refund your tuition. Just send me an email on or before November 4, 2010. No questions asked. No hassles. The electronic materials you receive will be yours to keep.

Cancellation Policy:

Space is limited and emailed cancellations will be accepted until midnight October 26, 2010. Cancellations made before this time qualify for a full refund of the tuition paid, less a $25.00 administration fee.

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Introductory Price

You won’t find this value for this price anywhere else. I guarantee it! Don’t procrastinate.

Important: This is NOT a seminar. It’s a hands-on interactive workshop providing interaction with other people going through divorce as well as personal one-one time with me.

Space is Limited to 20 Participants and without notice the registration “doors” will close once all spots are filled. Register NOW!.