You have probably heard the old saying; “Think before you speak!” Have you ever said something out loud or repeated something you heard only to regret it later? In today’s world, with the ever increasing popularity of the Internet and social media sites that saying can be translated into “Think before you post or write!”
How many of you have a profile on Facebook, My Space, Twitter, or some other social media site? Do you belong to a specialized group or forum, author a blog, where you can post, write or share personal information with other people via the World Wide Web on the Internet? If you participate on social media sites do you think about what you write or post before you do it?
You may think because you “know” all of the people who are your friends on Facebook, information on your profile, or what you write on your “friends” walls, is private between friends. Do not be deceived. Depending on your profile settings, the information on your profile, including comments, etc. may be viewed by people who are “not your friends.”
If you are in the process of a divorce or divorced, you should be careful what you publish on your social media sites, as well as what you write or comment on other people’s profiles. Some information could offend others, be used against you, reflect poor character/decisions, or provide written evidence in your divorce case.
If you are upset with your STBX, social media sites are not the place to air your dirty laundry. If you have something to say that is unfavorable, derrogatory, mean or otherwise inappropriate for the “world” including your STBX to see, do not publish it on social media sites. Send a private message or an email. You may even want to stop and ask yourself, do you really need to communicate “that message?”
If what you want to communicate could be misunderstood or damaging to your character or someone else’s, then think before you post or write it on a social media site. Anyone can join most social media sites for free. Even though you may think your STBX is not on the social media scene, he/she may join or have friends that will share what they see/learn.
Words of Advice:
- Keep it clean.
- Keep it private.
- Give yourself time to calm down - if this is an emotional reaction.
- Think before you post or write on the internet.
Copyright 2009 Shelley Grieser All Rights Reserved.
