If I asked you “What are your core values?” chances are you would struggle to answer the question. You see, most people are not consciously aware of their personal core values. When we go through life changes, such as divorce, our values or the priorities of certain values can change. Let’s take a look at what I mean by core values.

Core values are not descriptions of the work we do or the strategies we employ to accomplish our mission, or purpose. Core values underlie our work, how we interact with others, and which strategies we employ to fulfill our mission, or purpose. Our core values are the basic elements of how we go about our work and life. They are the practices we use (or should be using) everyday in everything we do.

In reality when we are not fully aware of our values, we might as well be saying we are not fully aware of what is important to us. Values are the foundation of our behavior. They define what is most important to us, they are the filter we use in making decisions, they are the motivating force behind our work, our passions, our life.

When you begin to rebuild your life after divorce, begin rebuilding with your foundation. Identifying your core values and understanding the priority you place on them, are key steps in establishing your foundation. When your values are clear you can make sure they are present, or a priority, in your life. Determining your core values will help you discover who you are. In the past, your values and their priority were most likely influenced and possibly determined, by and with, your spouse.

As you take the time to explore what you value, be prepared to ask yourself if this is something you truly value or was this something your former spouse valued? You may find certain values are not important to you while others are more important to you personally.

Once you have clarity on your values, think about how and where you are living out your values in your everyday life. Do you need to make some changes to incorporate your core values or get rid of some past values? As you live your life in alignment with your values, you will experience more fulfillment.

If you need help discovering your values and rebuilding your life, I can help you with the process. Often times we need someone to come alongside of us, to ask the right questions, to guide, motivate and encourage us to move forward and hold us accountable. If you wonder whether or not life coaching is for you, feel free to contact me for a complimentary coaching session.

Copyright 2009 Shelley Grieser All Rights Reserved.

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During my teleseminar last Thursday with Lynne Lee, I shared some websites and resources for people going through divorce, or on their path of recovery from divorce. I mentioned that I would post some resources on my blog. Below you will find a list of resources that you may find helpful, educational and useful.

divorce360.com Provides help, advice and community for people contemplating, going through or recovering from divorce and the issues around it – custody, child support, alimony and litigation

DivorceCare is a friendly, caring group of people who will walk alongside you through one of life’s most difficult experiences. Don’t go through separation or divorce alone.

DivorceCare seminars and support groups are led by people who understand what you are going through and want to help. You’ll gain access to valuable DivorceCare resources to help you deal with the pain of the past and look forward to rebuilding your life.

There are thousands of DivorceCare divorce recovery support groups meeting throughout the US, Canada and in other countries around the world. There’s one meeting near you!

EMwomen (EMpowering Women), is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women and girls make lasting and significant life changes that result in their ability to become catalysts of positive change within their families, community, and the world. This is a Christian based group, with many resources, small groups. It is not a “divorce” site, but offers some encouraging and empowering information. A place to connect and network with others.

iheartsingleparents.com A friendly, authentic and inviting community! Our goal is to bring single parents together in a positive atmosphere for support, inspiration and fun. Meet other single moms and dads that “get it” when it comes to going it alone.

kidshealth.org This site offers help getting your child through a divorce.

Parenting as a Christian Single Dad- This is a blog written by a Christian Single Dad for you men and yet some of the single mom’s may find it interesting as well.

picketfences.com A Divorce Recovery Network for Christian women.

ezinearticles.com you can search ezine articles for valuable information about all aspects of divorce.

If you are on FaceBook, search for divorce related groups.

I hope you will find some of these resources of value and interest. If you have any sites you have found informative that you think would be helpful for others, please feel free to share them in the comments section below.

Copyright 2009 Shelley Grieser All Rights Reserved.

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