I apologize for not posting anything the past number of days. As I mentioned before, in September I accepted a position on the Student Family Ministry Committee for Middle School at my church. The committee has been dealing with some critical issues that have been extremely time consuming not to mention emotionally and physically draining. As I have walked through this experience I would compare this time to what it was like going through my divorce.

This season (the past 6 weeks) has been characterized by:

My heart being deeply invested in the outcome of the circumstances.

I have felt consumed by the daily events taking place.

Heart felt pain over what has transpired.

Praying for awareness, acknowledgment and ownership of behavior, repentance and desire to change with the actions to support the necessary changes.

Continued hope and optimism, wanting to believe the change would come. Yet not seeing the desired results, ending with disappointment.

Attempting to do my part, what I could control and trusting God with what I could not control.

Praying and seeking God for knowledge of His will, my responsibility, and the strength, ability and courage to do the hard thing, the right thing.

Speaking the truth in love and standing up for what I believe.

Asking God, why me God? Why am I in this position, at this time? This is so hard.

What is it I am suppose to learn from this? How might I use this experience to change or grow?

The results and outcome are out of my control now. My divorce recovery leader use to tell us that our part was to:

1. Show up
2. Tell the truth
3. Trust God
4. And let go of the outcome

I mentioned these steps to several people during this difficult time. To the best of our ability we have followed these steps. I believe going through my divorce and what I learned going through it helped me in this situation more than I know.

Next time you are faced with difficult decisions or times in your life, remember these steps. They are simple and concise. If you follow these steps I believe you will be able to look yourself in the mirror, knowing you did your part to the best of your ability, while leaving the rest up to God. Trust that He is in control and He is faithful. 

If and when you apply these steps to a situation, feel free to come back and share your experience and the outcome.

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