In my last post, I asked you how you perceive people who are divorced? Then, if you were honest, how do you perceive yourself as a divorced person? When you went through your divorce did you feel inferior or have a negative opinion of yourself? I encouraged you to become aware of the negative thoughts that easily fall into your mind associated with divorce.

You do not have to accept thoughts that just fall into your head. You can choose to disregard negative thoughts. When you hear self defeating thoughts come into your mind, telling you that you are less than others because you are “divorced,” you need to stop them. Not only do you need to stop them, but you need to replace them with positive affirmations. It is easy to think wrong thoughts. It takes effort to think good thoughts and it takes consistency.

Some positive affirmations might be:

I am strong and courageous. I will not be terrified or discouraged, for the Lord my God goes with me wherever I go.

I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus.

I am made in God’s image, therefore I am not insecure.

God is able. God is greater than any circumstance, person, or power in this world.

I will not fear for God is with me. He will strengthen me and help me. He will hold me up with His righteous right hand.

God loves me and has a good plan for my life.God plans to prosper me and not to harm me.

I may not be where I need to be, but thank God I’m not where I use to be. I’m okay and I’m on my way.

Your thoughts will become your words and your actions. You need to be careful how you choose your thoughts. Choosing your thoughts takes practice. It will not feel natural at first, because you are so use to accepting and thinking whatever falls into your mind.

An Action Step:

For the next week will you make a conscious effort to become aware of your thoughts? Will you write down some positive affirmations to feed your mind when you catch yourself saying negative thoughts to yourself? Take some time to write down positive statements that speak to you on an index card and carry the card(s) with you, post it where you will see it, could be on your bathroom mirror, your computer, your refrigerator, your dash board in your car. If you want to change your attitude, you have to change your thoughts. Blessings to you as you choose your thoughts wisely.

Copyright 2009 Shelley Grieser All Rights Reserved

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